By Her Excellency, Clara Chibuzo Ciroma Former First Lady of Enugu State and CEO of The Clara Show.
It is an act of great indecency and lack of moral culture for any woman, especially one of prominence, to physically or verbally assault the wife of a sitting Governor. Likewise, it is disheartening to witness a Distinguished Lady Senator attempt to demean or undermine the dignity of her leader. “Every wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears hers down with her own hands” (Proverbs 14:1). Such conduct diminishes the grace and honor expected of women in public life and distorts the moral compass for the next generation. We must ask ourselves; is this the example we wish to set for our daughters?I recall my mother once telling her kinsmen that she would one day reveal who her true Ada; her true first daughter, was among us. The Ada my late father raised, and the one we all knew growing up, remains the true Ada because she refuses to support evil. She stands for truth, for what is right, and for values that preserve the family’s integrity. As Scripture says, “Better is a woman who fears the Lord than one who charms with her tongue” (Proverbs 31:30). Our mothers may have made mistakes, but as both the Bible and the Qur’an command, “Honor your father and your mother” (Exodus 20:12; Qur’an 17:23). Yet, honoring them does not mean following them into their errors, it means redeeming their legacy through virtue and obedience to God.As women, we must live up to the divine purpose of our creation; to be true helpmates. The Bible reminds us that “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). The Qur’an also echoes this divine balance: “They are your garments and you are their garments” (Qur’an 2:187), signifying mutual protection, dignity, and respect. Staying connected to God through constant prayer builds humility, virtue, and the wisdom to act rightly. Prayer shapes character, and character defines destiny.Mrs. Regina Nwoko is a woman blessed with grace, but she must rediscover her divine root and align herself once again with the God who lifted her. Every wife must understand that her husband comes first, followed by her children. The Bible counsels, “Wives, submit to your husbands, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22), while the Qur’an instructs, “The righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah would have them guard” (Qur’an 4:34). You honor your mother through uprightness and good conduct, not rebellion or misplaced loyalty.A wise woman guards her peace. “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God” (Matthew 5:9). Your siblings are those who help you succeed in your marriage, whom your husband wisely and prayerfully permits you to engage with, especially when old family ties threaten your peace or the sanctity of your marriage. Life is sacred and must be approached with seriousness, discretion, and purpose.A wife owes her husband respect and submission; not as weakness, but as obedience to divine order. If a husband causes pain, such a woman should pour her heart out to God, and approach the matter with wisdom, maturity and fear of the Lord, for “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). The Qur’an equally assures that “Verily, with hardship comes ease” (Qur’an 94:6). God alone can correct His sons and heal His daughters.I therefore encourage women to embrace marriage prayerfully and purposefully; to be dutiful, supportive, and prayerful wives. The growing trend of single motherhood, and the dedication of children born outside wedlock even in houses of God, reflects a deviation from God’s original design. God’s Word remains clear: “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6).Let us remember women like Mary, the Mother of Jesus; pure, obedient, and full of grace; Deborah, the judge who led with courage and righteousness; and Ruth, whose loyalty rebuilt a family line of faith. Their examples reveal that womanhood finds strength in submission to divine order.Globally and locally, women such as Mother Teresa, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Ego Boyo (actress), and late Dora Akunyili have shown that grace and strength are not opposites; they are complements. Their virtues changed nations, not through arrogance, but through integrity, faith, and divine wisdom.It is time, therefore, for women to return to the foundation of virtue and divine order. Let us prayerfully read the Holy Books and rewrite our life stories, restoring dignity, faith, and moral strength to womanhood. For when a woman stands in virtue, the world around her finds balance again.
